In the past, I have had a few struggles with getting the Needs Languages survey done. I realized one of the reasons behind it was because my personality type isn’t Right. So I decided to ask a person who is strong in the Right personality type.
The first thing they said to me was, “People don’t understand me and I wish they did.”
I replied. “We want to give you a voice please share your opinion.”
They told us what they didn’t like.
I have gotten this answer many times. I always ask the same question. “What would you like then?”
I always get the same response.
“I don’t know.”
Then the person gets overwhelmed and leaves.
What I have found is that it is the older adults who society has told them they can’t be who they are. Who has said it is “wrong” to have an opinion different. That they are to conform and when you don’t……
Yet if I were to ask someone younger, they respond totally differently. They will tell me and not run away. They are ok with who they are, and their opinion.
It saddens me that as adults we don’t teach our children how to have a balanced opinion, how to communicate it effectively, and how to listen to something that is different, without making the other person feel bad.