Belonging vs Love

Last week we talked about belonging and why we need it. In this article, I am going to explain that there is a difference between love and belonging.

According to Brene Brown in her book Atlas of the Heart. She says you need BOTH love and belonging.

By saying you need both, it means there is a difference between the two.

So what is the difference?

Have you ever heard someone say I love you but I don’t like you?

That is a love and belonging statement.

In other words, it is saying, I love you but I don’t want to belong to you or with you.

We can belong and not be loved. Think about fair-weather friends. At the time you are in belonging until….

Gary Chapman wrote about Love Languages. We focus on belonging language or The Needs Languages.

It is learning how to foster both in your life. It is fostering a place of community. Which is something we all need.